Coaching practices for Create vs Claim Value
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I say I value family, or health, or creativity
- I’m good at the collaborative part — I help grow the deal and everyone’s warm — and then I’m so worried about seeming greedy that I walk away with the short end while they take most of what we built.
- I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
- I’m not sure my stated values are real or just the ones I think I should have
- My beliefs are all hedged into mush
Practices that may help
- Values clarification through lived evidence
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice - Create value first, then claim your share
Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Check action against stated values — the alignment review
Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
The Pythagorean Evening Review - Excavate your actual values from your history
Use past choices and sacrifices — not aspirations — to find what you actually value.
Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy - Make your beliefs precise enough to be wrong
Vague claims cannot be falsified — sharpen your belief until it can be.
Falsification Thinking - Write a values declaration as the core of your legacy letter
Name the two to four values you most want to have lived by — then write why they matter to you.
The Legacy Letter: Writing What You Want to Leave Behind - Take value-consistent committed action
Translate each value into one concrete behavior you can do this week.
Values Clarification, Made Practical - Make them feel they already own it before asking them to keep it
People value things more once they feel ownership — creating that feeling before an ask amplifies the loss frame.
The Loss Frame: How Framing Shapes Decisions - The values–behavior gap check
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
Values Card Sort - Run a values card sort
Sort a deck of value words into keep/maybe/discard to surface what actually matters.
Values Clarification, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Values Card Sort Values Behavior Gap Check
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
The values–behavior gap check
- Enacted Values Vs Stated Values
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Values clarification through lived evidence
- Espoused Vs Enacted Values
Values-based action in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) means choosing behaviors that are consistent with what matters most to you — your values — rather than behaviors driven by avoidance of pain or approval-seeking. ACT distinguishes values (directions, ongoing) from goals (destinations, finishable); the emphasis is on the quality of action in the present rather than outcome attainment. ACT has robust meta-analytic support; values-based action is identified as a core mechanism.
- Living Your Values
Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
- Stated Vs Actual Values
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
- Stated Vs Enacted Values
Use past choices and sacrifices — not aspirations — to find what you actually value.
Excavate your actual values from your history
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