Coaching practices for Who Shows Up in Crisis

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • Going through the worst of it showed me exactly who actually showed up for me
  • I keep pulling all-nighters for emergencies that, if I’m honest, I could see coming weeks out
  • When a real emergency hits
  • When I’m calm I know exactly what helps me, but the second I’m actually in the grip of it my mind goes blank and I can’t remember a single thing to do or even where my stuff is
  • My whole day is just running from one fire to the next, and I keep calling it being productive

Practices that may help

  1. Domain 1 — Deeper relationships
    Adversity can reveal who truly shows up and deepen the capacity for closeness and compassion.
    Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical
  2. Prevent Q1 crises through Q2 investment
    Trace your recurring crises to neglected Q2 work — then schedule it before the next deadline emergency.
    The Eisenhower Matrix and Delegation
  3. Protect your Q1 response capacity
    Real crises are handled best by someone who is not already exhausted — Q1 capacity requires Q2 investment.
    The Eisenhower Life Audit
  4. Prepare your dive-reflex kit before a crisis
    Stock the freezer and brief people in your life before dysregulation peaks — crisis plans work only when made in advance.
    The Dive Reflex, Made Practical
  5. Quadrant 1: do it now
    Urgent and important tasks — crises and real deadlines — get handled immediately.
    The Eisenhower Matrix, Made Practical
  6. Pros and cons before acting on an urge
    List the pros and cons of acting on the crisis urge before you do it — to give the decision back to your wiser self.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  7. Maintain an unsolved problems list
    Write down recurring triggers so they become solvable problems rather than repeated emergencies.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  8. TIPP: Rapid Physiological De-escalation for Intense Distress
    Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to bring crisis-level emotion down quickly.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  9. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
    Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
    Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
  10. Build coping skills before the storm
    Practice regulation skills in calm times so they’re available — and credible — under pressure.
    Building Resilience, Made Practical

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