Coaching practices for Who to Consult on a Decision
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Every small call drags out for days because I’ve looped in so many people for their input that nobody’s opinion actually moves the needle anymore
- There’s a big, hard-to-undo choice in front of me
- When I’m facing a big decision I realize I have no one wise and honest to think it through with
- Under all this pressure to please people and react, I’m about to make a call that I already sense doesn’t square with who I actually want to be
- We decide things by group vote and the loud idea-lovers always carry the room, while the one person whose gut is usually right about what won’t work gets drowned out
Practices that may help
- Limit Consulted to people whose input genuinely changes the decision
Every C is a two-way conversation that costs time; over-consulting is as dangerous as under-consulting.
The RACI Matrix, Made Practical - Stay inside for high-stakes, irreversible decisions
Reserve your autonomous judgment for decisions within your circle; get help for the rest.
Circle of Competence - Build a personal board of advisers
Curate a small group of diverse, trusted people who know your work and challenge your thinking.
Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network - Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
The 10-10-10 Rule - Route decisions to your Discernment genius
Evaluation decisions drain Wonder and Tenacity geniuses — protect your evaluators and route decisions to them.
The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni) - Recognize which decisions to defer or delegate
Not every choice deserves your cognitive best — identify which ones merit serious deliberation.
Choice Overload, Made Practical - Make decisions through debate, not declaration
Multipliers use real debate to engage the team’s best thinking before deciding; Diminishers use meetings to announce.
Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them - Advise yourself as you would a friend
Ask what you would tell a friend in exactly your situation — then take your own advice.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Classify decisions by reversibility and stakes
Sort decisions into low-stakes/high-stakes and reversible/irreversible before deciding.
Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time - The seventh-generation test for decisions
Before a major choice, ask how it will affect people seven generations from now.
The Good Ancestor: Long-Path Thinking for a Meaningful Life
Related concerns
- Annie Duke Decision Making
Annie Duke's thinking in bets framework treats decisions as bets with uncertain outcomes, separating the quality of the decision from the quality of the outcome. Most real decisions involve incomplete information, so good decision-making is about process and probability, not about being right every time. The core skill is evaluating decisions on the information available at the time, not on how they turned out.
- Surrogate Decision Making
Before a major choice, ask how it will affect people seven generations from now.
The seventh-generation test for decisions
- And Then What Decision Making
Don’t stop at the first consequence — follow the chain at least two steps further.
Ask “and then what?” three times
- Common Good Decision Making
Ask whether what you’re about to do serves or damages the common good — not just your interests.
Test your actions against the common good
- Decision Commitment Meeting
Multipliers use real debate to engage the team’s best thinking before deciding; Diminishers use meetings to announce.
Make decisions through debate, not declaration
- Decision Making
Sort decisions into low-stakes/high-stakes and reversible/irreversible before deciding.
Classify decisions by reversibility and stakes
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