Coaching practices for Surrogate Decision Making

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m facing a big decision and I keep weighing only how it plays out over the next year or two
• I sit down to choose and realize I never decided what I actually want first, so whatever options get put in front of me end up defining "good" for me
• I agonize for days over tiny choices I could undo in a second, then rush the big ones I can’t take back
• There’s a big, hard-to-undo choice in front of me
• I tend to decide on my own and then use the meeting just to announce it

Practices that may help

1. The seventh-generation test for decisions
   Before a major choice, ask how it will affect people seven generations from now.
   The Good Ancestor: Long-Path Thinking for a Meaningful Life
2. Evaluate each option against your criteria before comparing options to each other
   Score options independently first — so the comparison set can’t retroactively redefine what good looks like.
   The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice
3. Classify decisions by reversibility and stakes
   Sort decisions into low-stakes/high-stakes and reversible/irreversible before deciding.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
4. Recognition-Primed Decision Making
   Gary Klein’s research found that experienced practitioners in high-stakes environments rarely compare options side by side. Instead, they recognize a situation as a familiar type, mentally simulate one course of action, and go with it if the simulation holds up — a process that is fast, accurate under time pressure, and breaks down predictably when the situation is genuinely novel.
5. Stay inside for high-stakes, irreversible decisions
   Reserve your autonomous judgment for decisions within your circle; get help for the rest.
   Circle of Competence
6. Make decisions through debate, not declaration
   Multipliers use real debate to engage the team’s best thinking before deciding; Diminishers use meetings to announce.
   Multipliers: How Leaders Amplify the Intelligence Around Them
7. Treat your decision as more final than it is
   Mentally close off the "undo" option to stop rumination and increase satisfaction.
   Choice Overload, Made Practical
8. Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
   Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
   The 10-10-10 Rule
9. Ask people who’ve been there instead of imagining it
   Other people’s actual experiences predict your future feelings more accurately than your own imagination.
   Affect Forecasting: Why You Mispredicted How You’d Feel
10. Slow down for high-stakes, irreversible decisions
    Match deliberation to the cost of being wrong: spend System 2 where reversal is hard.
    Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable

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