Coaching practices for Who You Spend Time with Wellbeing

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Who You Spend Time with Wellbeing, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Seeing the people I care about keeps landing at the very bottom of my list
• Almost all my discretionary money goes to treats for myself and the lift fades fast, and I notice the moments I actually felt good were the small things I did for other people
• I pour myself into work and goals while the handful of friendships that actually mean everything to me quietly go untended for months
• I come away from most of what I scroll through and most of the people I’m around feeling smaller and more agitated, and I can tell it’s quietly dragging my whole standard down
• Some people leave me lit up and others leave me flat and small, but I keep giving the most of my time to the draining ones out of habit or obligation

Practices that may help

1. Prioritize social time as a primary time investment
   Time with people you care about is one of the strongest predictors of feeling your time is well used.
   Time Affluence Practices (Cassie Holmes)
2. Allocate part of your values budget to others
   Prosocial spending — money spent on others — generates more lasting satisfaction per dollar than equivalent self-spending.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
3. Treating friendship as the most essential pleasure
   Invest in the quality of a small number of close friendships as your primary wellbeing strategy.
   Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness
4. Choose whose mind you spend time in
   Spend time with the best minds — living or dead — and guard against the rest pulling you down.
   Seneca on Time, Made Practical
5. Curate your social situation portfolio
   Who you spend time with, and in what contexts, is perhaps the highest-leverage situation selection available to most people.
   Situation Selection, Made Practical
6. Spend time on activities that feel both meaningful and enjoyable
   Activities that are both meaningful and enjoyable produce the highest time happiness — aim for the overlap.
   Time Affluence Practices (Cassie Holmes)
7. Invest in shared social networks
   Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
8. Protect moderate discretionary time — not too little, not too much
   The wellbeing sweet spot is two to five hours of free daily time; below or above it and happiness falls.
   Time Affluence Practices (Cassie Holmes)
9. Apply 80/20 to relationships and energy sources
   Identify which relationships energize and catalyze your best work, and invest in them disproportionately.
   The Pareto Principle: 80/20 for Personal Productivity
10. Prioritize depth over breadth in social investment
    Having five genuinely close friends is more protective of wellbeing than having fifty adequate ones.
    Dunbar's Number

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