Coaching practices for Why Do I Feel Emotionally Numb After Crying
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- The second something gets uncomfortable I reach for the phone or the wine or just more to do, and lately I’ve noticed the good stuff has gone flat too
- When they ask what’s wrong, all that comes out is “you ignored me” or “you don’t care”
- My kid is sobbing about something that seems so small, and every instinct in me wants to explain why it’s not a big deal
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- The big blowup is over but I’m completely wrung out
Practices that may help
- Stop numbing vulnerability
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Daring Greatly, Made Practical - Identifying and expressing feelings
Name the actual emotion underneath, distinct from thoughts disguised as feelings.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Made Practical - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Recover and recharge after intense emotion
After an emotional peak, deliberately allow recovery time — intense arousal depletes resources.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Describe emotions nonjudgmentally
Narrate what you feel in plain, factual language — dropping "I’m terrible for feeling this."
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Identifying and Targeting the Trauma Memory
Pinpoint the specific memory, its worst moment (the "touchstone"), and the negative belief it installed.
EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing - Come up from shutdown
When you are numb or foggy below the window, use stimulation to bring energy back up.
The Window of Tolerance: Your Optimal Arousal Zone - Mental subtraction (imagine it gone)
Briefly picture losing what you already have, to restore appreciation for it.
Premeditatio Malorum, in Depth - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Numb Feeling
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Stop numbing vulnerability
- How Do I Stop Feeling Emotionally Numb
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- Emotional Numbness
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- How Can I Stop Feeling Emotionally Numb And Feel Like A Normal Human Being
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- How To Stop Numbing Feelings
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- When Upekkha Equanimity Upekkha Near Enemy Check
Regularly check whether your equanimity is warm and aware or merely emotionally flat.
Detecting the near enemy: indifference versus genuine equanimity
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