Coaching practices for Why Do I Swing Between Extremes All or Nothing Thinking and Behavior
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- If it’s not perfect it’s a total failure to me
- My life keeps swinging between extremes
- My instinct in anything tense is to just split the difference and land safely in the middle, but lately that reflex keeps producing limp, wrong answers
- I’ve been ping-ponging between two options in my head for weeks
- I either float around in happy daydreams of how great it’ll be or I spiral into all the ways it’ll go wrong, and somehow neither one ever moves me
Practices that may help
- All-or-nothing thinking (black-and-white thinking)
Evaluate situations and yourself in absolute, binary terms — perfect or failure, always or never.
Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression - Understand why systems oscillate — and stop overcorrecting
Delayed feedback loops and overreaction to perceived gaps cause the boom-bust cycles in your own system.
Stocks and Flows - Deliberate toward the virtuous mean
For any character choice, identify the deficient extreme and the excessive extreme, then aim between them.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Use the journal to externalize decisions you are stuck on
Write out both sides of a decision in full — on paper, the reasoning becomes visible and the stuckness often resolves.
Journaling for Clarity - Distinguish obstacle-confronting from free-dreaming and indulging
Mental contrasting is different from both pure positive thinking and pure negative worry — it requires holding both futures in mind simultaneously.
Mental Contrasting and WOOP - Know when a bright line backfires
Rigid all-or-nothing rules can fuel disordered patterns — use them with judgment.
Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some" - Spotting cognitive distortions
Learn the recurring thinking errors — catastrophizing, all-or-nothing, mind-reading — to label them on sight.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Made Practical - Identify the cognitive distortion at work
Label the type of distortion — all-or-nothing, catastrophizing, mind-reading — to reduce its grip.
Cognitive Restructuring: The CBT Method for Changing Unhelpful Thoughts - Gauge your current flexibility level
Diagnose which end of the flexibility–inflexibility axis you operate from before you try to shift it.
Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical - Overgeneralization
Draw a sweeping conclusion from one or a few negative events.
Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
Related concerns
- All Or Nothing Thinking
Evaluate situations and yourself in absolute, binary terms — perfect or failure, always or never.
All-or-nothing thinking (black-and-white thinking)
- All Or Nothing Thinking Harm
Evaluate situations and yourself in absolute, binary terms — perfect or failure, always or never.
- Cognitive Distortions The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety And Depression When Starting Out
Cognitive distortions are systematic patterns of inaccurate thinking that maintain anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem — patterns like all-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, and mind-reading. David Burns popularized a list of ten common distortions in "Feeling Good," drawing on Aaron Beck’s cognitive therapy. The core claim — that these thought patterns are identifiable, learnable, and correctable through deliberate examination — is well supported by CBT’s strong evidence base.
- Awfulizing Cognitive Distortion
When failure feels catastrophic, locate it on a genuine scale of harm rather than treating it as the worst possible thing.
Anti-awfulizing: scale the badness honestly
- Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive distortions are systematic patterns of inaccurate thinking that maintain anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem — patterns like all-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, and mind-reading. David Burns popularized a list of ten common distortions in "Feeling Good," drawing on Aaron Beck’s cognitive therapy. The core claim — that these thought patterns are identifiable, learnable, and correctable through deliberate examination — is well supported by CBT’s strong evidence base.
- Cognitive Distortions The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety And Depression After A Loss
Cognitive distortions are systematic patterns of inaccurate thinking that maintain anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem — patterns like all-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, and mind-reading. David Burns popularized a list of ten common distortions in "Feeling Good," drawing on Aaron Beck’s cognitive therapy. The core claim — that these thought patterns are identifiable, learnable, and correctable through deliberate examination — is well supported by CBT’s strong evidence base.
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