Coaching practices for Win Win Thinking Expanding the Pie as a Caregiver

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m good at the collaborative part — I help grow the deal and everyone’s warm — and then I’m so worried about seeming greedy that I walk away with the short end while they take most of what we built.
• The whole thing has collapsed down to one number and we’re just staring each other down over price, so whatever I gain they lose
• I’m walking into this dead certain it’s one fixed pie
• I’m walking into this thing braced for a fight, certain that whatever they get is coming straight out of my pocket
• We’re treating this like there’s one pie to fight over and someone has to lose

Practices that may help

1. Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
   Win-win (integrative) thinking treats negotiation as a chance to create value before dividing it, instead of fighting over a fixed pie (distributive bargaining). By trading across differences in what each side values, both can come out better than a simple compromise — a well-supported idea in negotiation research, though it requires the right conditions to work.
2. Create value first, then claim your share
   Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
3. Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
   Expanding the pie means trading across issues that the two parties value differently, so both sides gain more than any fixed compromise would allow. Malhotra and Bazerman’s research shows that most negotiators leave joint gains on the table because they treat every issue as a zero-sum battle.
4. Add issues to expand the pie
   Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
5. Negotiate from abundance, not scarcity
   Question the assumption that what one side gains the other must lose.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
6. Reject the fixed-pie assumption
   Stop assuming your gain must be their loss — most negotiations have hidden joint gains.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
7. Invent options for mutual gain
   Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
   Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
8. Expand the pie before you divide it
   In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
9. The concentric-circle extension of ren
   Deliberately extend the quality of care you have for those closest to you toward more distant others.
   Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach
10. Trade across differing priorities
    Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
    Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie

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