Create value first, then claim your share
Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
Why it works
Value creation and value claiming pull in opposite directions: creating needs openness and trust, claiming needs guardedness. Doing them in the wrong order or at the wrong time leaves value on the table or invites exploitation. Sequencing — invent and expand first, then allocate — resolves the tension (the "negotiator’s dilemma").
How to do it
- Lead with collaborative value-creation: options, trades, shared problem-solving.
- Once the pie is as large as it’ll get, switch to claiming with your BATNA and anchors ready.
- Don’t mistake being collaborative for being soft — claim your fair share at the end.
Evidence
The tension between creating and claiming value (the negotiator’s dilemma) is a well-recognized framework in negotiation research and teaching. (mechanistic)
Managing the create/claim tension is a strategic framework; how it resolves depends on trust and the other side’s style.
Common mistake
Being so cooperative you create value and then let the other side claim most of it — generosity without a claiming phase.
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More practices for Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
- Reject the fixed-pie assumption
Stop assuming your gain must be their loss — most negotiations have hidden joint gains.
- Trade across differing priorities
Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
- Add issues to expand the pie
Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
- Share information to unlock value
Reveal interests (not your bottom line) so both sides can find the better deal.
- Bridge disagreements with contingent terms
When you disagree about the future, bet on it — tie terms to what actually happens.