Coaching practices for Working with Your Inner Critic During a Big Change

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• One thing went badly and now my whole head has rewritten it into "I’m incompetent"
• I’ve tried for years to just shut this critical voice up and it never works
• The voice in my head feels like just me
• One part of me wants out, another part won’t let me, and they just war with each other on a loop
• The harsh thoughts move so fast in my head I can’t get any grip on them

Practices that may help

1. Reframe the critic’s verdict as data, not identity
   When the critic says "you failed," redirect to "what can I learn?" — a specific question, not a pep talk.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
2. Inquire into what the critic is protecting
   Ask your inner critic what it is afraid would happen if it stopped criticizing you.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
3. Name and externalize the inner critic
   Give the critic a name and treat it as a character, not the truth about you.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
4. Working With Your Inner Critic
   The inner critic is not silenced by arguing with it or fighting it — it is disarmed by recognizing it as a learned protective strategy and responding with the same warmth you would offer a struggling friend. Self-compassion practices show reliable effects on self-criticism and psychological well-being in multiple meta-analyses.
5. Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
   Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
6. Critic journaling — transcript and response
   Write what the critic says in one column; write a compassionate adult response in the other.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
7. Replace harsh self-criticism with compassionate self-enquiry
   When the inner critic fires, respond with curious investigation rather than more demands.
   Radical Openness: The RO-DBT Approach to Overcontrol and Loneliness
8. The inner critic dialogue
   Give the inner critic a voice on paper and then respond — the goal is dialogue, not silencing.
   Shadow Work
9. Identify your Self 1 interference in real time
   Notice when your inner critic is instructing, judging, or catastrophizing — and name it as Self 1.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
10. Recognizing Shame and Self-Criticism Patterns
    Name the specific self-critical scripts and their triggers before trying to change them.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic

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