Coaching practices for You Cant Numb Selectively
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- The second something gets uncomfortable I reach for the phone or the wine or just more to do, and lately I’ve noticed the good stuff has gone flat too
- When I’m aching, the more I focus on the sore spot the bigger it seems to get, until it’s all I can feel
- With feelings it’s all or nothing for me
- Whenever I go near a painful memory I lunge straight at the worst moment to "get it over with," and it floods me every time
- The moment I let myself feel the tight, awful sensation, it swallows me whole and I can’t find my way back out
Practices that may help
- Stop numbing vulnerability
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Daring Greatly, Made Practical - Deploy attention away from pain and physical discomfort
Shifting attention away from pain signals reduces the experienced intensity of pain — a clinically proven, non-pharmacological technique.
Attentional Deployment, Made Practical - Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
Interoception, Explained - Approach the edge of the memory, not the center
When working with a difficult memory, start at its least intense periphery — a moment before, a sensation at the boundary — rather than its core.
Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical - Brief touch and return — the basic pendulation move
Direct attention briefly toward a difficult sensation, then consciously return to your resource — stay only as long as you can track it without flooding.
Pendulation, Made Practical - Distinguish soothing from numbing
Know the difference between self-soothing (active, present) and numbing (passive escape) — both reduce distress but in opposite directions.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Keep each dose short — leave before flooding
Spend 10–30 seconds with a difficult sensation, then retreat to your resource before escalation — deliberately underdoing the exposure.
Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical - Come up from shutdown
When you are numb or foggy below the window, use stimulation to bring energy back up.
The Window of Tolerance: Your Optimal Arousal Zone - Interoceptive noticing in movement
Attend to what a movement actually feels like from the inside, rather than how it looks from the outside.
Trauma-Informed Yoga: Movement as a Path to Safety - Havening with lateral eye movements
Add side-to-side eye movements to the touch sequence to deepen attentional interruption.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
Related concerns
- Emotional Numbing
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
Stop numbing vulnerability
- How To Stop Numbing Feelings
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- Numbing Vs Flooding
Learn to distinguish "processing within the window" from "flooding outside it" — the difference determines whether the session helps or harms.
Recognize the difference between titration and flooding
- When Interoception Building Interoceptive Window
Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
- Emotional Numbness
Notice how you numb hard feelings — and feel them instead, because you can’t numb selectively.
- Emotional Numbness Nervous System
Use gentle movement and micro-connection to rise from a collapsed or numb state.
Dorsal vagal lift: moving out of shutdown
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