Coaching practices for 10 10 10 Values Check
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Under all this pressure to please people and react, I’m about to make a call that I already sense doesn’t square with who I actually want to be
- This whole thing will be over and done within a day, so asking how I’ll feel in ten years is absurd
- If you ask me what I value I’ll say family, health, honesty, growth
- I’m staring at a choice and the only thing I can feel is how it lands right now
- I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
Practices that may help
- The 10-10-10 Rule
Suzy Welch's 10-10-10 rule asks you to evaluate a decision through three time horizons: how will I feel about this in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years? It is a heuristic for countering short-term emotional reactions by making long-run consequences more cognitively vivid. Evidence for the technique specifically is limited, but it draws on well-supported research on temporal discounting and affective forecasting. - Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
The 10-10-10 Rule - Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision
10-10-10 is a template — adjust the horizons to the real timescale of the choice.
The 10-10-10 Rule - The forced-rank sort
Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
Values Card Sort - Values Card Sort
A values card sort is a structured exercise — originally developed in motivational interviewing — that forces you to rank competing values by choosing between them rather than claiming you hold all of them equally. The comparison process surfaces implicit priorities that self-report alone misses. Evidence for values-clarification as a lever for behavior change is observational to clinical; the specific card-sort format has good face validity but limited direct trial data. - Apply all three horizons explicitly
Before deciding, write a sentence answering each: 10 minutes, 10 months, 10 years.
The 10-10-10 Rule - The values–behavior gap check
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
Values Card Sort - Values Clarification, Made Practical
Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research. - Rank your top values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
Values Clarification, Made Practical - Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget
Write your top five values without looking at your bank statement — then compare the two.
Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Do I Figure Out My Values
Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
- What Is A Good Process For Figuring Out Your Values
Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
- Choose Your Values
Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
Rank your top values
- Core Values List
Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
The forced-rank sort
- Core Values Operational
Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
Make core values operational, not decorative
- Couples Values Exercise
Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
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