Coaching practices for Accepting Others
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I hold myself to a standard of basically never making mistakes, so every ordinary slip-up feels like a defect in me
- Part of why I won’t let this go is that accepting it feels like saying it was okay, like I’d be letting them off the hook
- There are parts of me
- I carry all of this alone
- I bend over backwards to be fair to everyone else and then quietly leave myself out of the equation entirely
Practices that may help
- Practice deliberate acceptance of human fallibility
Regularly remind yourself that being imperfect is not a character flaw — it is the nature of being human.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Distinguish acceptance from approval
Accept that something happened without approving of it, pretending it’s fine, or treating it as deserved.
Amor Fati: Loving What Happens - The practice of self-acceptance
Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Use the prayer in community or accountability practice
The prayer was designed to be said together — community amplifies both the acceptance and the courage.
The Serenity Prayer as a Practice Framework - Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
Radical acceptance, taught by Tara Brach and rooted in dialectical behavior therapy, means fully acknowledging reality as it is — including pain you cannot change — instead of fighting it. The point is not approval or giving up; it is to stop the extra suffering that resistance adds on top of the original pain. Acceptance-based skills are well-established in clinical practice (DBT, ACT); RAIN is a practitioner framework for applying them. - Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Unconditional Self-Acceptance
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support. - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Lead with empathy and acceptance
Accept the person fully even while refusing to accept poor performance.
Servant Leadership, Made Practical - Extend unconditional acceptance to others
Apply the same anti-rating logic to other people — separating what they did from what they are.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance
Related concerns
- Accepting The Person Not The Behavior
Accept that something happened without approving of it, pretending it’s fine, or treating it as deserved.
Distinguish acceptance from approval
- Eft Acceptance Statement
Accept that something happened without approving of it, pretending it’s fine, or treating it as deserved.
- Mind Rebellion Acceptance
Actively choose acceptance — not once, but each time the mind rebels — treating it as a repeated practice, not a state.
Turning the mind toward acceptance
- Unconditional Other Acceptance
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
- Unconditional Self Acceptance With Friends
Unconditional self-acceptance (USA), a cornerstone of Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, means accepting yourself as a fallible human being regardless of performance or approval — not because you are special, but because rating the whole self on any single act is logically incoherent. The evidence is strongest for the clinical outcomes of REBT; the specific USA construct has solid theoretical and observational support.
- Accepting Yourself
Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
The practice of self-acceptance
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