Coaching practices for Acts of Kindness as a Parent
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- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- There are certain moments
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- I praise my kid constantly
- I praise my kid constantly
Practices that may help
- Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Notice the ripple — secondary effects beyond the immediate act
Watch for how a single act of kindness can propagate through a social network, which amplifies the meaning of the original act.
Acts of Kindness, Made Practical - Reflect briefly on kind acts after doing them
Spend two to three minutes at day’s end recalling your kindness acts — the consolidation is part of why the practice works.
Acts of Kindness, Made Practical - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
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