Coaching practices for How to Encourage a Child Specifically
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- I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- I praise my kid constantly
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
Practices that may help
- Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Give clear, calm, single instructions
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
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Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
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Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Process Praise Parenting
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Character Recognition Parenting
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
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Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
- Positive Narration Children
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Sportscast what you see rather than directing
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