Coaching practices for Honest Feedback Relationships

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Feedback in my one-on-ones only ever flows one way
• No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above
• I only ever seem to show up to this person’s desk when I need something corrected, and I’m realizing I haven’t done a single thing purely for their benefit in months
• I dish out plenty of feedback but I’ve never once asked my team to tell me what I’m getting wrong, and I think that’s exactly why they don’t trust that honesty around here is safe
• The instant someone gives me hard feedback I’m already explaining and defending myself

Practices that may help

1. Make feedback flow in both directions
   Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
   Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
2. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
3. Give something genuine before you ask for something hard
   The trust account needs deposits before you make a withdrawal — invest in the relationship before demanding performance.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
4. Ask for feedback before you give it
   Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
5. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
6. Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
   Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
   The Platinum Rule
7. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
8. Place feedback on the 2x2
   Two axes — care personally and challenge directly — define four quadrants; only one is radical candor.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
9. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
10. Apply reciprocity in feedback conversations
    Offer a genuine concession or acknowledgment of your own role before asking someone to change.
    The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical

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