Coaching practices for Awe and Connection
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Awe and Connection, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Right as I’m drifting off or just surfacing in the morning, the loosest, most interesting connections float up
- I keep noticing that two people I know from totally different corners of my life really ought to meet
- I feel small and stuck inside my own head, looping on my own problems, and I want something vast enough
- I’m betting on "this will happen and then that will follow," and the link between them feels airtight to me
- When something strikes me as beautiful I almost always keep it to myself, even with someone right beside me
Practices that may help
- Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Make or Break Relationships
A bid for connection is any small attempt to engage a partner -- a comment, a question, a touch, a sigh. John Gottman's observational research found that couples who turned toward bids far more often than they turned away were far more likely to stay together six years later. The research is correlational but one of the more specific findings in the couples literature. - Protect hypnagogic and hypnopompic windows
The edge of sleep — drifting off and waking up — is when associative barriers lower most.
The Three Bs of Creativity: Bed, Bath, and Bus - Make cross-cluster introductions
Introduce two people from different clusters who genuinely benefit from meeting.
The Strength of Weak Ties - Seek out awe as a broadening and self-transcending emotion
Awe expands perceived time, reduces self-focused thought, and increases prosocial behavior — and it can be deliberately accessed.
Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical - Red-team joint scenarios before betting on them
Before acting on a conjunction ("X will happen AND Y will follow"), assign a skeptic to attack the "and."
The Conjunction Fallacy — When "More Details" Feels More Likely - Sharing awe with others
Experience and talk about wonder together to deepen both the awe and the bond.
Awe Walks, and the Science of Wonder - Prioritize bid awareness during high-stress periods
Under stress, bid frequency rises and attention drops -- the worst combination.
Bids for Connection: The Small Moments That Make or Break Relationships - Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences. - Seek awe in collective rituals and shared experience
Experience something vast alongside others to amplify both the awe and the connection.
Awe and the Small Self - Become the connector in every room
Make it your personal brand to know who should meet whom.
Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
Related concerns
- Awe And Social Bonding
Experience something vast alongside others to amplify both the awe and the connection.
Seek awe in collective rituals and shared experience
- Benefits Of Awe
Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences.
- Benefits Of Experiencing Awe
Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences.
- Collective Awe
Experience something vast alongside others to amplify both the awe and the connection.
- Collective Identity Awe
Experience something vast alongside others to amplify both the awe and the connection.
- Importance Of Connection
Introduce two people from different clusters who genuinely benefit from meeting.
Make cross-cluster introductions
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