Coaching practices for Awe and the Small Self During a Big Change

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  • My own problems have swollen up to fill my entire world and I can’t see past them
  • In the moments something vast cracks me open, I feel this soft pull toward everyone and everything
  • For a little while right after something takes my breath away, the stuff I’d been stressing about genuinely feels smaller and farther off
  • When something makes me feel tiny against how huge the world is, my reflex is to flinch and grab back control, like feeling small is a threat to fend off
  • I feel small and stuck inside my own head, looping on my own problems, and I want something vast enough

Practices that may help

  1. Awe and the Small Self
    Dacher Keltner’s research shows that awe — the response to something vast that exceeds our current frame — reliably produces the "small self": a felt diminishment of individual concerns that is experienced as expansive rather than deflating. This shift reduces self-focused rumination, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the sense of available time. The core effects are well replicated; the neural and downstream health claims are more preliminary.
  2. Deliberately invoke the small-self shift
    Seek an encounter with something genuinely vast to let your personal concerns be re-proportioned.
    Awe and the Small Self
  3. Use awe to reconnect with something larger than yourself
    When awe makes the self feel small, follow the natural impulse toward belonging — toward community, nature, or humanity at large.
    Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
  4. Write from a small-self perspective after awe
    After an awe experience, write briefly from the perspective of someone whose personal concerns feel appropriately small.
    Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
  5. Courting the small self
    Seek experiences that make you feel small in a good way — and notice the relief in it.
    Awe Walks, and the Science of Wonder
  6. Seek out awe as a broadening and self-transcending emotion
    Awe expands perceived time, reduces self-focused thought, and increases prosocial behavior — and it can be deliberately accessed.
    Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
  7. Deep time humility
    Situate yourself in deep geological and historical time to shrink ego-urgency and expand perspective.
    The Good Ancestor: Long-Path Thinking for a Meaningful Life
  8. Seek awe in collective rituals and shared experience
    Experience something vast alongside others to amplify both the awe and the connection.
    Awe and the Small Self
  9. Update your love map after major life changes
    When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
    Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
  10. Pursue personal growth that you share — not parallel but joint
    Growing alongside a partner or friend, rather than separately, leverages the self-expansion mechanism for both people simultaneously.
    Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us

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