Coaching practices for Awe and the Small Self with Friends

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  • In the moments something vast cracks me open, I feel this soft pull toward everyone and everything
  • The few times I’ve been swept up in something huge in a crowd
  • I feel small and stuck inside my own head, looping on my own problems, and I want something vast enough
  • My own problems have swollen up to fill my entire world and I can’t see past them
  • When something makes me feel tiny against how huge the world is, my reflex is to flinch and grab back control, like feeling small is a threat to fend off

Practices that may help

  1. Awe and the Small Self
    Dacher Keltner’s research shows that awe — the response to something vast that exceeds our current frame — reliably produces the "small self": a felt diminishment of individual concerns that is experienced as expansive rather than deflating. This shift reduces self-focused rumination, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the sense of available time. The core effects are well replicated; the neural and downstream health claims are more preliminary.
  2. Use awe to reconnect with something larger than yourself
    When awe makes the self feel small, follow the natural impulse toward belonging — toward community, nature, or humanity at large.
    Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
  3. Seek awe in collective rituals and shared experience
    Experience something vast alongside others to amplify both the awe and the connection.
    Awe and the Small Self
  4. Seek out awe as a broadening and self-transcending emotion
    Awe expands perceived time, reduces self-focused thought, and increases prosocial behavior — and it can be deliberately accessed.
    Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
  5. Deliberately invoke the small-self shift
    Seek an encounter with something genuinely vast to let your personal concerns be re-proportioned.
    Awe and the Small Self
  6. Courting the small self
    Seek experiences that make you feel small in a good way — and notice the relief in it.
    Awe Walks, and the Science of Wonder
  7. Write from a small-self perspective after awe
    After an awe experience, write briefly from the perspective of someone whose personal concerns feel appropriately small.
    Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
  8. Join a small accountability group
    Report to a small group rather than one person to add redundancy and social proof.
    Accountability Partners
  9. Treating friendship as the most essential pleasure
    Invest in the quality of a small number of close friendships as your primary wellbeing strategy.
    Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness
  10. Sharing awe with others
    Experience and talk about wonder together to deepen both the awe and the bond.
    Awe Walks, and the Science of Wonder

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