Coaching practices for Awe and Well Being with My Partner

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• My partner and I both have some quiet inner read on how close we actually feel lately, but neither of us ever says the number out loud
• Nothing’s wrong between us, but it feels a little flat, and I notice I only really put effort in when there’s a problem
• My partner and I have become roommates who just handle logistics
• My partner and I have boiled our talking down to schedules and chores, and it hit me that the version of them in my head is years out of date
• My partner sided with their family over me again, or didn’t back me up in front of others, and I’m left unsure whether they’ll actually put us first when it counts

Practices that may help

1. Ask "How are we doing?" as a genuine question
   Invite both partners to rate and describe the overall relationship state this week.
   The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
2. Make capitalization a habit
   Treat your partner’s good news as a recurring opportunity to build the relationship.
   Active-Constructive Responding, Made Practical
3. Make bids for shared enjoyment, not just support
   Invite your partner to enjoy something together — playfulness and delight are also bids.
   Turning Toward: The Daily Practice That Builds Relationship Resilience
4. Awe and Well-Being, Made Practical
   Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences.
5. Practice openness through regular self-disclosure
   Share your thoughts, feelings, and daily experiences — not just problems.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
6. Create and protect the couple bubble
   Agree that you each put the relationship above any third party, including family of origin.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
7. Tracking movement toward ideal self
   Measure your progress toward your ideal self over time — not just relationship satisfaction.
   The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other
8. Express fondness and admiration specifically
   Name what you genuinely respect and appreciate about your partner — out loud and specifically.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
9. Give regular assurances of commitment
   Explicitly remind your partner of your love, commitment, and investment in the relationship.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
10. Words of affirmation
    Express care through spoken or written appreciation, encouragement, and explicit affection.
    The Five Love Languages, Honestly

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