Coaching practices for Bottom Up Emotion Regulation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When my child melts down and I ask what’s wrong, they genuinely can’t tell me
- I keep saying yes to the same gatherings and commitments that reliably leave me drained and rattled, then trying to white-knuckle my way through the feelings once I’m there
- Something just hit me and I’m flooded
- I notice that on the days I’ve slept badly or skipped lunch, the smallest thing sets me off and I take hours to come back down
- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
Practices that may help
- Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Situation selection
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical - Simple affect label: say the emotion word aloud or in writing
When emotionally activated, say or write one clear emotion word — "fear," "anger," "grief" — before doing anything else.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Reduce emotional vulnerability (PLEASE)
Lower your baseline reactivity by protecting sleep, eating, exercise, and physical health.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical - Map your personal emotion triggers
Know which situations, times of day, and states reliably trigger your most intense emotions — so you can intervene upstream.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Map your emotional landscape
Identify which situations reliably produce which emotions for you — before you need to regulate them.
Situation Selection, Made Practical - Name what the emotion is doing in your body
Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Granular labeling: move from broad to specific emotion words
Replace "stressed" or "bad" with the most specific emotion word you can find.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
Related concerns
- Emotional Regulation Noting
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
Teach the four zones and what each one feels like
- Regulate Emotion Upstream
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
Situation selection
- Act Emotional Regulation
Choose or avoid situations based on their likely emotional consequences — regulation before the event.
- Movement To Regulate Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
Mindfulness of the current emotion
- Emotion Word For Regulation
When emotionally activated, say or write one clear emotion word — "fear," "anger," "grief" — before doing anything else.
Simple affect label: say the emotion word aloud or in writing
- Emotional Regulation
Give children a shared map of internal states before asking them to regulate.
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