Coaching practices for Bring Solutions Not Problems

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Bring Solutions Not Problems, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • It feels like this is just how I am
  • Somewhere in this I stopped seeing a problem we both have and started seeing the other person AS the problem
  • The way I’ve worded this problem to myself already sounds like a verdict
  • I keep fixing the thing right in front of me and the same trouble just keeps coming back in a new shape, which makes me think I’ve only been swatting at the surface
  • I’m stuck on a problem because the way I’ve described it boxes in the solutions I can even see

Practices that may help

  1. Exception Finding: When Is the Problem Already Less Severe?
    Identify times when the problem was absent or less severe — these are evidence that solutions already exist.
    Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
  2. Separate the person from the problem
    Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical
  3. Rephrase the problem as a "How might we…?" question
    Convert a problem statement into a question that invites solutions without prescribing them.
    Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First
  4. Climb the why–why ladder
    Ask "why is this a problem?" repeatedly to reveal the higher-level goal your current framing may be missing.
    Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First
  5. Reframe problems using cross-domain language
    Describe your problem in a different field’s vocabulary — then use that vocabulary to search for solutions.
    The Medici Effect: Innovation at the Intersection
  6. Diagnose the challenge before choosing the response
    Ask whether the problem requires new expertise (technical) or new values and behavior (adaptive).
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  7. Move to problem-solving only after understanding is mutual
    Problem-solving before mutual understanding produces solutions neither party owns.
    Looping for Understanding (Difficult Conversations)
  8. Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
    A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  9. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
    Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical
  10. Map who actually owns the problem
    Identify whose problem it truly is before investing in a solution — the framing often changes when you name the real owner.
    Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First

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