Coaching practices for Building Positive Emotions as a Parent
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- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- There are certain moments
- I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
- The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
Practices that may help
- Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
Positive emotions can be cultivated deliberately through practices that vary what triggers them: gratitude, savoring, meaningful engagement, kindness, and awe are the most studied routes. Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory proposes that positive emotions expand thinking and build psychological resources over time — supported by observational research, though some specific claims (like the 3:1 ratio) have not replicated. The individual practices have varying but mostly real evidence bases. - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
- Building Positive Emotions For My Teenager
Positive emotions can be cultivated deliberately through practices that vary what triggers them: gratitude, savoring, meaningful engagement, kindness, and awe are the most studied routes. Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory proposes that positive emotions expand thinking and build psychological resources over time — supported by observational research, though some specific claims (like the 3:1 ratio) have not replicated. The individual practices have varying but mostly real evidence bases.
- Positive Psychology As A Parent
Martin Seligman’s positive psychology studies what makes life worth living, organized around the PERMA model — Positive emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Several of its signature interventions, including three good things, the gratitude visit, and using signature strengths, have genuine randomized-trial support for raising well-being and lowering depressive symptoms.
- Autogenic Training As A Parent
Offer self-directed options in practice — which drill, how many reps, which cue — to enhance intrinsic motivation and learning.
Give performers choice within practice to support autonomy
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Character Recognition Parenting
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
- How Do I Help My Child To Love Her Mother More Than Her Grandmother
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
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