Coaching practices for Character Recognition Parenting
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- There are certain moments
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- I praise my kid constantly
Practices that may help
- Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Conduct premortems on your past recognition failures
Review cases where pattern recognition led you wrong to find the shared structural feature that fools you.
Recognition-Primed Decision Making - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
Related concerns
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Positive Narration Children
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Sportscast what you see rather than directing
- Process Praise Parenting
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
- When Natural Logical Consequences Encouragement Not Praise
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- When Special Time Sportscasting
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
- Contingent Praise Parenting
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Encourage specific contributions and efforts
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