Coaching practices for Co Lead Role Undermined Manager Dismissive

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• Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
• My people route every little decision up to me, even ones squarely in their own authority
• I give people good advice and watch it bounce right off
• I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
• I keep warning that there’ll be a consequence next time and then there never is, and now I can feel that everyone

Practices that may help

1. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
   Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
2. Supporting — step back on direction, stay high on support
   For the capable-but-cautious performer, lighten the instructions and bolster their confidence.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
3. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
4. Acknowledge what you heard before advancing to advice
   A solution offered before the speaker feels heard is usually rejected, even when it is correct.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
5. Disagree with your manager constructively
   State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
6. Follow through on stated consequences — or don’t state them
   Consequences you don’t enforce teach that commitments are optional.
   Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter
7. There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
   The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
8. Deliberately expand your inner circle
   Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
9. Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
   Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
10. Assess the current quality of your leader-member relationship
    Honestly diagnose where you stand in the relationship before trying to improve it.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical

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