Coaching practices for Coaching Reality Assessment

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • Someone comes to me with "it’s a disaster, he doesn’t respect me," and I just take their version at face value and start fixing
  • I give my team a sharp, accurate read on what’s going wrong and exactly how to fix it, and they nod and walk away
  • When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
  • I start each coaching conversation from scratch and never circle back to what the person said they’d do last time
  • I practice on my own and only ever find out afterward that the whole thing was wrong, with no idea where I went off the rails

Practices that may help

  1. Explore Reality — establish an honest assessment of the current situation
    Help the person see their current situation clearly and specifically, without judgment or premature solutions.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  2. Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously
    Help the person see their situation more clearly while also connecting them to their ownership of it.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  3. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
    Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  4. Close the GROW loop with session review
    At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  5. Coached practice with targeted feedback
    Attempt the task yourself while a coach observes and provides immediate, specific feedback on process.
    Cognitive Apprenticeship: Learning by Making Thinking Visible
  6. Obstacle anticipation before close
    Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  7. Create thinking space rather than filling every meeting with content
    The most valuable thing a coaching manager provides is protected time and space for reflection — which most teams never get.
    The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
  8. The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
    GROW (Goal, Reality, Options, Will) is a structured four-stage conversation framework that guides a person from a clear goal through an honest assessment of current reality, to a generated set of options, and finally to a committed action. It is the most widely used coaching model in executive and workplace coaching; evidence is primarily practitioner consensus and observational, not randomized controlled trials.
  9. Generate Options before evaluating any
    Brainstorm all possible paths before judging — then the coachee, not the coach, narrows them.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  10. Use GROW in brief leadership conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
    Apply GROW structure to 5-minute hallway conversations and 1-on-1 check-ins — not only to hour-long coaching sessions.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People

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