Coaching practices for Coworker is Lying About Insignificant Things

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• Someone does one small thing and within seconds I’ve built a whole story about what it means
• Everyone around me seems so sure of themselves, and I’m convinced I’m the only one secretly faking it
• My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
• Something a coworker did landed way harder than it should have and I’ve been stewing on it all day
• To smooth things over I say "sounds good," "I’m fine with it," "I understand" when none of it is actually true

Practices that may help

1. Master your stories
   Separate the facts from the story you’re telling about them before you react.
   Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
2. Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
   Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
3. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
4. Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior
   Use the arrow technique to identify the core belief driving your worst-case interpretation of what someone did.
   The Downward Arrow: Uncovering the Core Beliefs Behind Distress
5. Build sincerity by saying only what you mean
   Only make commitments and assertions you actually believe — and retract the ones you don’t.
   The Trust Triangle
6. Say no by reference to your priorities, not your schedule
   Decline non-essential requests by citing what matters more, not by claiming you lack time.
   Big Rocks First
7. Practice owning your contribution in group settings
   In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
8. Follow through on micro-commitments
   Always do the small thing you said you’d do — weak ties live or die on reliability.
   The Strength of Weak Ties
9. Investigate before escalating
   Ask one honest clarifying question before taking action on an assumed motive.
   Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain
10. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
    Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor

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