Coaching practices for How to Handle Gaslighting at Work
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- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- Someone takes a dig at me and I instantly want to either defend myself or fire back, and either way I’ve handed them exactly the reaction they were fishing for and the jabs just keep coming.
- Someone does one small thing and within seconds I’ve built a whole story about what it means
- When the team debriefs and credit gets handed around, I instantly downplay my part
Practices that may help
- Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Fogging
Calmly agree with any grain of truth in a criticism without caving or counterattacking.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Master your stories
Separate the facts from the story you’re telling about them before you react.
Crucial Conversations, Made Practical - Practice owning your contribution in group settings
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
The Four Stages of Psychological Safety - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself
Between the missed commitment and the conversation, you have built a narrative — and that narrative will leak into the conversation.
Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter
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State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
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