Coaching practices for Discipline Hyperactive 3 Year Old

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• When my kid acts out I lose it
• The second I start correcting my kid they go straight into defense mode
• My kid blows up over the same things again and again, and I keep calling it defiance or attitude

Practices that may help

1. Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
   Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
2. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
3. Refuse to energize negative behavior
   Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
4. Connect before you correct
   A child who feels connected to you is far more receptive to your guidance than one who feels attacked.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
5. Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
   Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
6. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
   Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
7. Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
   Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
8. Give clear, calm, single instructions
   One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
9. Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
   The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
10. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
    Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)

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