Coaching practices for Doing What Matters Most
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Doing What Matters Most, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I know there are a couple of things I’m genuinely good at, but I use them just to get by
- Going through that, I saw so clearly what actually matters to me
- My day starts and I just react to whatever lands first, so by evening I’ve been busy nonstop without ever deciding what actually mattered
- I look at all the areas where I’m falling short and try to fix everything at once, and end up moving nothing
- I’ve gotten ruthlessly efficient at all of it and I’m emptier than ever
Practices that may help
- Bridge from signature strengths to purpose
Identify the top two or three things you do better than most people and trace how they can serve something larger.
The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self - Let adversity reorder your priorities
Use the clarity that hardship brings to permanently re-rank what actually matters to you.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Highlight: choose one priority
Each morning, pick a single most-meaningful thing you want to make time for today.
Make Time, Made Practical - Choose one domain to move toward the bullseye this week
Pick the domain where a small move would matter most — not the most important one in the abstract.
Values Bullseye, Made Practical - Connect to purpose (spiritual energy)
Anchor effort to values and meaning, the deepest and most renewable source of drive.
The Power of Full Engagement, Made Practical - The contribution test (what the world needs)
Look for where your effort visibly helps someone, not just where it pleases you.
Ikigai, Honestly Explained - Pay yourself first — with time
Take time for what matters off the top, before the day’s demands consume it.
Four Thousand Weeks, Made Practical - Set one organization-wide priority per quarter
Identify the single most important thing the company must accomplish this quarter, and make it everyone’s top priority.
The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus - Ask the people who matter to you how they are — and really listen
Check in on someone in a way that signals they are on your mind, not just in your address book.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Make someone else feel they matter — specifically
Tell a specific person, specifically, that they are noticed and important to you.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count
Related concerns
- How To Find What Matters
Tell a specific person, specifically, that they are noticed and important to you.
Make someone else feel they matter — specifically
- How To Clarify What Matters Most
Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
Using values questions to deepen a conversation
- How To Feel You Matter
Tell a specific person, specifically, that they are noticed and important to you.
- Service And Mattering
Volunteer, mentor, or help in a setting where the impact of your presence is tangible and direct.
Serve in a context where your contribution is visible
- What Mattered Today
Gordon Flett defines mattering as the sense that one is significant to others — noticed, important, and depended upon. Feeling that you matter predicts lower depression, higher engagement, and reduced suicidality across large observational samples. Anti-mattering — the sense of being invisible or a burden — is a stronger predictor of distress than simply lacking positive social connection.
- What Matters Most In Life
Check in on someone in a way that signals they are on your mind, not just in your address book.
Ask the people who matter to you how they are — and really listen
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