Coaching practices for Extreme Ownership for My Teenager
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- Every little thing turns into a power struggle because my kid wants to control everything, and I’m stuck between bossing them through the whole day or handing them a freedom they’re not ready for
- My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances
- When my kid acts out I lose it
- There’s this thing I keep grinding at purely out of obligation and dread of the consequences if I don’t
- Every time I put my foot down and insist, my kid blows up worse
Practices that may help
- Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
Extreme Ownership, from Navy SEAL officers Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, says the leader owns everything in their world — outcomes, mistakes, and the performance of the team — with no excuses and no blame passed down. It is a battlefield-tested practitioner model, not a lab-tested intervention: the mechanisms are sound, the evidence is experiential. - Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Take extreme ownership
When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Move extrinsic goals toward internalization
Compliance → identification → integration: you can gradually own a goal that started as external pressure.
Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation: What the Research Actually Shows - Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use family meetings to solve problems together
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
Related concerns
- Extreme Ownership As A Parent
Extreme Ownership, from Navy SEAL officers Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, says the leader owns everything in their world — outcomes, mistakes, and the performance of the team — with no excuses and no blame passed down. It is a battlefield-tested practitioner model, not a lab-tested intervention: the mechanisms are sound, the evidence is experiential.
- Extreme Ownership In A New Job
Extreme Ownership, from Navy SEAL officers Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, says the leader owns everything in their world — outcomes, mistakes, and the performance of the team — with no excuses and no blame passed down. It is a battlefield-tested practitioner model, not a lab-tested intervention: the mechanisms are sound, the evidence is experiential.
- Extreme Ownership When Starting Out
Extreme Ownership, from Navy SEAL officers Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, says the leader owns everything in their world — outcomes, mistakes, and the performance of the team — with no excuses and no blame passed down. It is a battlefield-tested practitioner model, not a lab-tested intervention: the mechanisms are sound, the evidence is experiential.
- High Warmth High Structure Parenting
Children need to know they are loved and to know what is expected — these work together, not against each other.
Provide warmth and structure simultaneously
- Power Posing Revisited As A Parent
Amy Cuddy’s original 2010 claim — that two minutes of expansive posture changes hormone levels and risk-taking — failed to replicate reliably, and even one of the original co-authors distanced herself from the hormonal mechanism. The more modest finding — that posture affects subjective confidence and behavior — has held up better, though the effect sizes are small. The honest take: posture matters, the original claims were overreached, and the useful practices are simpler and more defensible than the original study suggested.
- Should I Force Activities On My Child
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
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