Coaching practices for Falsification Thinking During Conflict
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Somewhere in this I stopped seeing a problem we both have and started seeing the other person AS the problem
- I’ve built up this villain version of the other person in my head
- Something’s genuinely wrong here and there’s no time to coax everyone to a comfortable yes
- The moment we start arguing, any sense that I actually like and respect this person evaporates
- I walk away from conflicts having caved again
Practices that may help
- Separate the person from the problem
Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Falsification Thinking
Karl Popper argued that a claim is scientific — and useful — only if it can in principle be proven wrong. Falsification thinking applies this to everyday reasoning: instead of looking for evidence that confirms your view, ask what evidence would refute it. This is a well-regarded normative principle in philosophy of science; applying it in practice reduces confirmation bias and sharpens the precision of your beliefs. - Take their perspective accurately
Build a precise model of how the situation looks from their side, not a caricature.
Tactical Empathy - Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships - FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Avoiding (unassertive, uncooperative)
Sidestep or postpone the conflict when timing is bad or the issue isn’t worth engaging.
The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles - Stick to Values: act consistently with what actually matters to you
Before compromising a position, check whether the compromise conflicts with a core value — and hold if it does.
FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships - Specify what would falsify your belief before you look at evidence
Write down what evidence would prove you wrong before you go looking.
Falsification Thinking - Make your beliefs precise enough to be wrong
Vague claims cannot be falsified — sharpen your belief until it can be.
Falsification Thinking
Related concerns
- Self Discrepancy Theory During Conflict
Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
- Seligman S Perma Model During Conflict
Martin Seligman’s PERMA model identifies five pillars of well-being: Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Unlike happiness models that treat well-being as a single variable, PERMA argues these five elements are each intrinsically valued and each independently improvable. Several PERMA-targeted interventions have randomized-trial support; others are mechanistically grounded with less direct evidence.
- Validation In Conflict
Find the part of their view that is understandable given their experience — and say so.
Validate: acknowledge what makes sense about their perspective
- Brief Mindfulness For Conflict
When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
Drive all blames into one
- Conflict Resolution Prototype
Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
Transform the relationship, not just the issue
- Conflict Resolution Reasoning
In conflict, stop arguing about conclusions and descend together to the data level.
Walk down the ladder together in disagreements
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