Coaching practices for Feedback Best Practices
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- My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"
- I tend to bite my tongue in the moment and save things up for the formal review, and then I dump weeks of accumulated issues on someone all at once
- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
- When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
Practices that may help
- Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
The feedback sandwich (positive–negative–positive) is the dominant model for giving feedback in workplaces, but research and practitioner experience suggest it routinely fails: recipients either remember only the positive parts or dismiss the negative as softened insincerity. The practices below cover why it fails mechanistically and what specific alternatives are better supported. - Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response. - Receive every suggestion with only "thank you"
Accept all feedforward without debate, justification, or even agreement — just acknowledge and note.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Specific Feedback Examples
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
- How To Give Feedback Effectively
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- Nudge Feedback
A nudge is any change in how choices are presented that predictably shifts behavior without eliminating options or changing incentives — and the evidence that well-designed nudges work is strong across savings, health, and energy use, though effect sizes vary and some nudges decay over time.
- Specific Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
- Credible Feedback
Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
- Feedback And Focus
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
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