Coaching practices for Specific Feedback
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Specific Feedback, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
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- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
- When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
- All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation
- I tend to bite my tongue in the moment and save things up for the formal review, and then I dump weeks of accumulated issues on someone all at once
Practices that may help
- Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited. - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response. - Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
The feedback sandwich (positive–negative–positive) is the dominant model for giving feedback in workplaces, but research and practitioner experience suggest it routinely fails: recipients either remember only the positive parts or dismiss the negative as softened insincerity. The practices below cover why it fails mechanistically and what specific alternatives are better supported. - Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
Related concerns
- Specific Feedback Examples
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
- Feedback Best Practices
Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
- How To Use Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- Nudge Feedback
A nudge is any change in how choices are presented that predictably shifts behavior without eliminating options or changing incentives — and the evidence that well-designed nudges work is strong across savings, health, and energy use, though effect sizes vary and some nudges decay over time.
- Structured Feedback Format
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited.
- The Sbi Feedback Model At Work
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited.
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