Coaching practices for Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior with My Partner
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- Every time my partner and I try to swap ideas it slides into scoring points
- I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
- The second someone suggests something, I’m already arguing back in my head
- When I try to help someone get better I either go vague and cheerlead
- Whenever I ask how I’m doing, the answer comes back as a verdict on what I already screwed up, and I spend the whole conversation defending myself instead of actually learning anything I could use next time.
Practices that may help
- Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials. - Establish a no-argument rule in feedforward exchanges
In structured feedforward exchanges, neither party evaluates or debates the suggestions — only listens and notes.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Receive every suggestion with only "thank you"
Accept all feedforward without debate, justification, or even agreement — just acknowledge and note.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Give feedforward as specific, actionable ideas — not generic encouragement
When giving feedforward, offer two concrete behavioral ideas, not praise or abstract advice.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Ask for ideas about the future, not assessments of the past
Replace "how did I do?" with "what ideas do you have for how I could do better?"
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response. - Replace performance review conversations with feedforward conversations
In coaching conversations, ask "what could you do differently?" instead of "what went wrong?"
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Use feedforward to align team members on goals before projects begin
At the start of a project, invite feedforward on how to succeed — before any performance to critique.
Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
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Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior At Work
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior During A Big Change
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior During Conflict
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward Future Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior With My Team
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
- Feedforward
Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
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