Coaching practices for Greasing the Groove as a Parent

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• I praise my kid constantly
• I’m trying to improve at five different moves at once and progress on every one of them is crawling
• Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
• I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
• My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation

Practices that may help

1. Greasing the Groove, Made Practical
   Greasing the groove (GTG) is a strength training method developed by Pavel Tsatsouline in which you perform a target movement frequently throughout the day at sub-maximal effort — typically 40-60% of maximum — without ever training to failure. The goal is neurological efficiency rather than hypertrophy: myelinating the motor pattern so the movement becomes more automatic and powerful. Evidence is mechanistically grounded in motor learning research; formal RCTs specifically testing GTG as a protocol are limited.
2. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
   Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
3. Target GTG at one specific goal movement
   GTG works through accumulated neurological specificity — spreading it across too many movements dilutes the signal.
   Greasing the Groove, Made Practical
4. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
5. Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
   Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
   Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
6. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
   Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
7. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
   "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
8. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
   Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
9. Accept your role (not its outcomes) as your commitment
   Commit to the role — parent, manager, friend, citizen — as a practice, with its obligations, not as a guarantee of outcomes.
   The Stoic Reserve Clause
10. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
    Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)

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