Coaching practices for How Can I Help When the Parents Don't Acknowledge Their Child 's Learning Disability
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- When I help someone learn I either smother them with so much help they never struggle, or leave them stranded and lost
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- They tell me what kind of parent or partner they want to be, and it’s miles from how they’re actually living
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- My kid blows up over the same things again and again, and I keep calling it defiance or attitude
Practices that may help
- Provide contingent support: more help when needed, less when not
Calibrate help to the learner’s actual performance moment by moment rather than delivering a fixed dose.
Scaffolding: The Art of Temporary Learning Support - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Delay scaffolding until needed
Resist providing hints, worked examples, or structure until the learner has genuinely engaged with the challenge.
Productive Failure: How Struggling First Makes Instruction More Effective - Practice speaking about the loss to people outside your immediate circle
Gradually widen the circle of people who know about the loss and can offer recognition.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Focus on solutions, not blame
Ask "What can we do to fix this?" rather than "Why did you do that?" — one opens, the other closes.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
Related concerns
- How Do You Tell Your Child They Are Terrible At Something
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- 4 Year Old Child Not Responding Without Prompting
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
- Attributional Retraining As A Parent
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Attributional Retraining For My Teenager
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
- Child Need Behind Behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
Refuse to energize negative behavior
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