Coaching practices for How Do I Accept Myself My Strengths and Weaknesses and Get Rid of Self Doubt
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I hold myself to a standard of basically never making mistakes, so every ordinary slip-up feels like a defect in me
- There are parts of me
- The reason I keep leaving myself an out is that deep down I’m not sure I can actually do this
- I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
- I just bombed at something and I’m stuck swinging between making excuses for it and beating myself up over it
Practices that may help
- Practice deliberate acceptance of human fallibility
Regularly remind yourself that being imperfect is not a character flaw — it is the nature of being human.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - The practice of self-acceptance
Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Build genuine self-efficacy to eliminate the motive
The most durable cure for self-handicapping is a genuine track record of success that makes the excuse unnecessary.
Self-Handicapping: Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup - Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Affirm a different value after a failure
When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Reframe the performance as process information, not a verdict
When failure is information rather than a verdict, there’s nothing for the handicap to protect.
Self-Handicapping: Recognizing and Stopping the Excuse Setup - Write about a value that matters to you
Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Shame-attacking exercises
Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Practice self-compassion
Respond to your own imperfection with the kindness you’d offer a friend, not harsh judgment.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - Audit your self-beliefs for consistency
Find the places where you hold contradictory beliefs about yourself and decide which is actually true.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
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Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
Shame-attacking exercises
- How Can I Stop Overanalyzing Everything And Get Rid Of Underestimating Myself
When you assume everyone saw your blunder, consciously cut the estimate in half.
Actively update your estimate of how much others notice
- How Do I Deal With Insecurity
Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
- How Do I Deal With Low Self Esteem
Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
- How Do I Fix Low Self Esteem
Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
- How Do You Accept Yourself
Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
The practice of self-acceptance
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