Coaching practices for How Do You Teach a Child Who Doesn't Respond to Positive or Negative Reinforcement
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- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
- When my kid acts out I lose it
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- My kid won’t put on the coat, won’t pack the lunch, and every fiber of me wants to swoop in and save them from the small fallout
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
Practices that may help
- Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Extinguish unwanted behaviors by removing their reinforcement
Stop a behavior by consistently withholding the reinforcer that maintains it — not by punishing it.
Operant Conditioning and Schedules of Reinforcement - Distinguish consequences from punishment before you intervene
Ask: is this related to the behavior, reasonable, and respectful? If not, it’s punishment dressed as a consequence.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Connect before you correct
A child who feels connected to you is far more receptive to your guidance than one who feels attacked.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
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