Coaching practices for How Strong is the Feeling
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The feeling that I’m about to be exposed is so strong it just registers as fact
- Something just hit me hard
- Something is really getting to me right now and it’s running the show, but if you asked me what the feeling actually is I couldn’t tell you
- With feelings it’s all or nothing for me
- I feel like a fraud, so I must be one
Practices that may help
- Separate feelings from facts
Treat "I feel incompetent" as a feeling to examine, not a fact to act on.
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical - Delay a decision until the initial emotional spike passes
Give yourself 24 hours after a strong emotional reaction before committing to a choice.
The Affect Heuristic — When Feelings Substitute for Facts - Name the emotion in plain words
Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It - Stay with sensation without flooding (titrate)
Build the capacity to feel a sensation in tolerable doses instead of numbing or being swept away.
Interoception, Explained - Emotional reasoning
Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression - Check whether your judgment is tracking affect, not the target attribute
When a decision "just feels right," ask whether the feeling is about the actual question or about your current emotional state.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary - Name what the emotion is doing in your body
Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
The Feeling Wheel, developed by counselor Gloria Willcox in 1982, is a visual tool that organizes emotions in concentric rings from six core emotions (glad, mad, sad, scared, disgusted, powerful) outward to increasingly specific nuanced feelings. It helps people name their emotional experience more precisely — a capacity research calls emotional granularity — which is associated with better emotional regulation and reduced distress. - RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Feelings Vs Facts
Treat "I feel incompetent" as a feeling to examine, not a fact to act on.
Separate feelings from facts
- Assertive Feeling Expression
"I feel [emotion] when [specific observable situation] because [why it matters to me]."
Use the correct I-statement structure
- Describe Your Emotions
When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
- Does The Feeling Fit
Let a word, phrase, or image arise from the felt sense — not the other way around.
Find a handle word or image
- Emotion Intensity Scale
Add a number: "irritated, about a 3" tells you more than "irritated" alone.
Rate the intensity, not just the type
- Feeling Overwhelmed
Work through old, unfinished tasks in order rather than perpetually re-triaging them.
Systematically process the backlog
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