Coaching practices for How to Align Personal Interests with Family

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• I’m torn between two things I care about
• I say family and health are what matter most to me, but if you looked at my actual calendar this week you’d never guess it
• I say family and health and experiences are what matter to me, but when I actually look at where my money goes it’s subscriptions and convenience and impulse buys
• I’ve got a short list of values but they’re all just sitting there as equals, and the second two of them collide in real life
• Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want

Practices that may help

1. Use the bullseye to resolve competing values
   When two values pull in different directions, the bullseye shows you which domain is most neglected and most in need of attention.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
2. Audit your time against your values
   Compare where your hours actually go to the values you say you hold.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
3. Align spending deliberately with stated values
   Review each discretionary category against what you say matters most — and cut what doesn’t match.
   The Latte Factor: Small Spending and the Cost of Habit
4. Rank your top values
   Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
5. Excavate core values before writing goals
   Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
   The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
6. The forced-rank sort
   Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
   Values Card Sort
7. Values clarification through lived evidence
   Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
8. Mapping shared and divergent values in a relationship
   Do the card sort alongside someone important to you and compare — do not assume your rankings match.
   Values Card Sort
9. Map your three circles honestly
   Separately answer each circle — passion, best-at, economic engine — before looking for the intersection.
   The Hedgehog Concept
10. Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget
    Write your top five values without looking at your bank statement — then compare the two.
    Values-Based Spending, Made Practical

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