Coaching practices for What Do I Value Most

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• If you ask me what I value I’ll say family, health, honesty, growth
• I’ve got a short list of values but they’re all just sitting there as equals, and the second two of them collide in real life
• I say I value family, or health, or creativity
• If someone asked me what I actually care about, I’m not sure I could answer honestly
• I can’t tell which of my values are truly mine and which I just absorbed from my parents or my culture

Practices that may help

1. The forced-rank sort
   Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
   Values Card Sort
2. Rank your top values
   Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
3. Values clarification through lived evidence
   Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
4. Values clarification: what matters most to you?
   Identify 3–5 core values — not what you should value, but what actually matters when life is stripped back.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
5. Use the eulogy / future-self lens
   Imagine how you’d want to be remembered to reveal the values you’d defend most.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
6. Audit your time against your values
   Compare where your hours actually go to the values you say you hold.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
7. Use the bullseye to resolve competing values
   When two values pull in different directions, the bullseye shows you which domain is most neglected and most in need of attention.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
8. Using values questions to deepen a conversation
   Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
   Values Card Sort
9. Map your value hierarchy
   Rank what you most value so you can draw on the strongest affirmation when you need it.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
10. Run a values card sort
    Sort a deck of value words into keep/maybe/discard to surface what actually matters.
    Values Clarification, Made Practical

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