Coaching practices for If You Ask Me What I Value I'll Say Family Health Honesty Growth All of Them Because They All Sound Important but I've Never Had to Actually Choose Between Them and I Suspect I Don't Really Know Which One Wins Until Something Forces the Trade Off

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• If you ask me what I value I’ll say family, health, honesty, growth
• I’ve got a short list of values but they’re all just sitting there as equals, and the second two of them collide in real life
• I say I value family, or health, or creativity
• I’m torn between two things I care about
• I say family and health are what matter most to me, but if you looked at my actual calendar this week you’d never guess it

Practices that may help

1. The forced-rank sort
   Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
   Values Card Sort
2. Rank your top values
   Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
3. Values clarification through lived evidence
   Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
4. Use the bullseye to resolve competing values
   When two values pull in different directions, the bullseye shows you which domain is most neglected and most in need of attention.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
5. Audit your time against your values
   Compare where your hours actually go to the values you say you hold.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
6. Values clarification: what matters most to you?
   Identify 3–5 core values — not what you should value, but what actually matters when life is stripped back.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
7. Resolving a decision with two competing values
   When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
   Values Card Sort
8. Excavate your actual values from your history
   Use past choices and sacrifices — not aspirations — to find what you actually value.
   Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
9. Know thyself — map your actual values against your actions
   Compare what you say you value with what your behavior reveals you actually value.
   The Examined Life
10. The values–behavior gap check
    Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
    Values Card Sort

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