Coaching practices for How to Avoid Telling People About My Job

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• When I talk to people in the field they give me the polished official version, and I walk away no clearer on what the day-to-day actually feels like
• I keep so much of what I actually think and feel to myself that people around me are constantly guessing wrong
• I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
• I carry the I’m-a-fraud feeling completely in secret because saying it out loud feels like it would confirm it
• I keep quietly blocking off my focus time and saying nothing, and then seething every time a colleague books right over it

Practices that may help

1. Listen for what isn’t in the job description
   Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
2. Expand the Open area through deliberate self-disclosure
   Share what you know about yourself that others don’t — reducing the Hidden quadrant.
   The Johari Window
3. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
   Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
4. Say it out loud to someone safe
   Disclose the imposter feeling to a trusted peer or mentor to break its secrecy.
   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Made Practical
5. Communicate your theme-day structure to collaborators
   Let colleagues know which days are off-limits for meetings so the structure is sustainable, not secret.
   Theme Days, Made Practical
6. Request the conversation the right way
   A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
7. Practise your story before you need it
   Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
8. Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
   Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
9. Public commitment
   Announce the goal to people whose opinion you care about.
   Precommitment Devices (Ulysses Contracts)
10. Make a public commitment to create social accountability
    Telling others what you plan to do makes failure visible and costly — a social stake.
    Commitment Contracts, Made Practical

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