Coaching practices for How Should I Evaluate Whether a Coach Understands Developmental Theory

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• When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
• The moment the person I’m coaching names a couple of ideas, I jump in with "have you considered" and basically hand them my answer
• Someone comes to me with "it’s a disaster, he doesn’t respect me," and I just take their version at face value and start fixing
• I only ever coach in the rare formal sit-down and then default to firing off answers in every quick hallway exchange
• All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation

Practices that may help

1. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
   Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
2. Generate Options before evaluating any
   Brainstorm all possible paths before judging — then the coachee, not the coach, narrows them.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
3. Explore Reality — establish an honest assessment of the current situation
   Help the person see their current situation clearly and specifically, without judgment or premature solutions.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
4. Use GROW in brief leadership conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
   Apply GROW structure to 5-minute hallway conversations and 1-on-1 check-ins — not only to hour-long coaching sessions.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
5. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
   Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
6. Powerful open questions at every stage
   Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
7. Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously
   Help the person see their situation more clearly while also connecting them to their ownership of it.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
8. Coach the person, not just the problem
   The most important thing a manager can work on is the person’s capacity to handle future problems, not just today’s.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
9. The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
   Leading as a coach means creating space for people to think and grow rather than solving every problem for them. The approach draws on coaching methodology — asking over telling, listening before advising — and is supported by research on autonomy, self-efficacy, and learning. The shift is behaviorally demanding because telling feels faster and more capable, even when it systematically reduces the people around you.
10. Rewrite internal-focus coaching cues as external-focus equivalents
    Audit your coaching language and convert body-focused instructions to effect-focused ones.
    External Focus of Attention, Made Practical

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