Coaching practices for How to Control Your Emotions Book

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• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought
• I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
• When the anger actually hits, my mind goes blank and there’s no calm voice in there
• My kid melts down and my instinct is to fix it or shut it down fast, and the tantrum just gets bigger

Practices that may help

1. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
2. Self-regulation
   Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
   Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
3. Self-awareness
   Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
   Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
4. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
   Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
5. Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
   When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
6. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
   Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
7. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
   After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
8. Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
   Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
   The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical
9. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
10. Distinguish suppression from reappraisal in the moment
    Learn to tell when you are actually regulating versus just masking — the experience is different once you know what to look for.
    The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical

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