Coaching practices for How to Cope with Overwhelming Emotions

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• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
• Every time I try to face the hard stuff I go straight at the worst of it to just get it over with, and it floods me
• I keep circling the same painful thing for hours and every loop makes it worse
• I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"

Practices that may help

1. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
2. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
3. Titration (work in tiny, tolerable doses)
   Approach a hard sensation or memory in small sips, not all at once, so you stay regulated.
   Somatic Experiencing, Honestly Explained
4. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
   Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
5. Give yourself permission to feel
   Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
6. TIPP: Rapid Physiological De-escalation for Intense Distress
   Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to bring crisis-level emotion down quickly.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
7. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
   When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
   Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
8. Acceptance (willingness)
   Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
   Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
9. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
10. Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance
    Choose which DBT or other coping skills you will deploy at each difficult moment, before you are in it.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations

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