Coaching practices for How to Cope with Separation Anxiety in Dogs

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  • I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
  • Even once the worst of it passes, I can’t get back into the room
  • We leave and come home with barely a glance
  • I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
  • The second they go quiet or take too long to reply, something in me lights up and I can’t sit still

Practices that may help

  1. Drop the safety behaviors
    Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  2. Engage with the present moment
    Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  3. Ritualize hellos and goodbyes
    Make greetings and departures a deliberate, warm full-stop rather than background noise.
    Secure-Functioning Relationships
  4. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  5. Regulate the anxious protest response
    For anxious activation, soothe the alarm before acting on the urge to pursue or test.
    Attachment Theory, Made Usable
  6. Stay in the situation for the full arc
    Leave only after the attack has peaked and begun to subside — not in the middle, no matter how strong the urge.
    Panic Surfing
  7. Run toward the feeling
    Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  8. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  9. Fade reliance on a support person
    Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  10. For anxious: down-regulate before pursuing
    The anxious pursuit, when driven by panic, always makes things worse -- soothe first, then reach.
    The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle

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