Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with Separation Anxiety

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
  • Even once the worst of it passes, I can’t get back into the room
  • I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
  • I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch
  • I spend my days bracing for the next wave of it, scanning my body, dreading the moment it shows up

Practices that may help

  1. Drop the safety behaviors
    Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  2. Engage with the present moment
    Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  3. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  4. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  5. Run toward the feeling
    Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  6. Stay in the situation until anxiety drops
    Remain in the feared situation long enough for distress to fall — leaving early teaches the wrong lesson.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  7. Ritualize hellos and goodbyes
    Make greetings and departures a deliberate, warm full-stop rather than background noise.
    Secure-Functioning Relationships
  8. Fade reliance on a support person
    Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  9. Run the full 5-4-3-2-1 sequence
    Work through all five senses in order: 5 things seen, 4 heard, 3 touched, 2 smelled, 1 tasted.
    The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique
  10. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique
    Name five things you see, four you hear, three you feel, two you smell, one you taste.
    The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical

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