Coaching practices for How Do I Help My Dog Overcome Separation Anxiety

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  • I’ve got all these little rules that keep me okay
  • I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
  • I can only do certain things if a particular person comes with me
  • I can get through the scary thing now, but only with my little crutches
  • I can only handle the scary situation if I’ve got my little crutch

Practices that may help

  1. Drop the safety behaviors
    Let go of the small avoidances and crutches you use to feel "safe" from anxiety.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  2. Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization
    Systematic desensitization, developed by Joseph Wolpe, pairs gradual exposure to a feared stimulus with a competing relaxation response, weakening the conditioned fear association over repeated trials. It has strong clinical support for phobias and anxiety disorders, though it requires consistent practice and the gains can narrow when the feared situation is complex or involves social evaluation.
  3. Fade reassurance-seeking
    Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  4. Fade reliance on a support person
    Gradually enter feared situations with decreasing support from a person who has been a source of safety.
    Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
  5. Eliminate safety behaviors
    Identify and drop the subtle actions that reduce anxiety but prevent learning you don’t need them.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  6. Gradually drop safety behaviors
    Safety behaviors (a phone, a companion, a pill) reduce distress in the moment but prevent the learning that exposure is meant to produce.
    The Fear Ladder: Graded Exposure Made Practical
  7. Track SUDs across sessions to see your own progress
    Record distress ratings before and after each session so progress is visible and motivating.
    Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization
  8. Engage with the present moment
    Once the edge comes off, redirect attention fully into an activity or your surroundings.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical
  9. Prolonged exposure: stay until distress drops
    Enter the feared situation and stay until anxiety peaks and then noticeably decreases on its own.
    Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
  10. Use humor as a therapeutic distance-maker
    Practice narrating your anxiety to an imaginary sympathetic audience — make it funny.
    Logotherapy: Paradoxical Intention

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